Posted by JayMac on November 1, 2008, at 9:40:06
In reply to Re: Is this an example of a dual relationship? » JayMac, posted by Nadezda on November 1, 2008, at 9:10:21
Again, thanks for all your responses.
Let me clarify a little bit: I have a huge passion (and passion isn't a big enough word to describe it) for psychology, this is neither because of her nor a result of her. This has been passion for the past 7 years, and, in a way, basically my whole life. What is a direct result of our relationship, is my profound interest in psychoanalytic theory (object relations to be more exact). I see this is in multiple ways. Yes, it does help me to feel connected to her. Yes, I thoroughly enjoy speaking with her about it. Yes, understanding the intellectual aspects of myself can help me in therapy. My T has a very specific specialty, which originally brought me to her. Even before conceiving the notion of seeing a therapist, my interest in this subject has been great! Then, I meet her, and she opens my mind to a whole new world. One filled with depth, critical thinking, mastery, and a passion to help people. I really see our meeting as a blessing from God, who intentionally brought us together!
I am a graduate student so our talk about theory or whatever is extremely eye opening. Her perspective on things is different than my professors and vice versa. I respect each of their points of view. I enjoy seeing things from different pairs of glasses. Also, in order to be a great therapist, I believe you must learn all the theories available, so you can best help your patient. But at the end of the day, a lot of that totally minimizes what really needs to be spoken about: The relationship.
When everything is said and done, and there has been innumerable research on this topic, IT IS THE RELATIONSHIP THAT MATTERS. No matter what theory the therapist uses no matter what school they came from. It's the relationship that HEALS.
My trouble right now, is with the relational aspect between us. I'm desperately trying to make sense of it. I understand it but I don't. Right now, I love her, but I want to challenge her. I'm forcing her to see things from my point of view. I know she does, but now I'm directly asking for it.
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