Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 30, 2008, at 7:40:44
In reply to Re: Very Painful- T Told me Not to E-mail Him Anym » sassyfrancesca, posted by Wittgensteinz on October 30, 2008, at 4:49:14
> Sassy,
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> I think it has all been said but I want to reiterate your right (legal and ethical right) to confidentiality.Absolutely, and you hit the nail right on the head in all you have said...((((Witti))).
It's not about your T being totally 'transparent' with his wife (and you know that is a laughable matter in any case)
Wow, is that true or not!?
He says he has "no secrets"---that is a delusion, unless he tells his wife all of the UNprofessional behavior he has had with me.....verbally AND physically; what a crock.
- his clients certainly shouldn't be totally transparent to his wife! Absolutely!
You and him have a contract of confidentiality - he is legally and ethically obliged to keep what is said between you and him (and what is exchanged between you and him via phone/e-mail) exactly that - between you and him alone.
YES, and he is so adamant about confidentiality (He wouldn't even speak to me in Hawaii, even tho he saw me 5 times/but he WOULD have danced with me if he had seen me at the dance...now how weird is that!?
You have the right to talk to whoever you wish, that's your right as a patient/client. Exactly, and I told him if I felt like mailing him, I would!
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> The other matter of bringing his wife into this - it seems inappropriate and perhaps with some motive on his part. Yes, i am wondering.Is he trying to set you up against his wife? She is the gate-keeper stopping you from 'coming in' - stopping you sending e-mails - she is your T's nosy parent, interfering in your business...?
Never thought of it like that, but ANYthing is possible.
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> I don't understand his reasoning - it seems he's pushing you away, likely because of his own problems dealing with his loving feelings for you.Yes, I mean as we were walking out the door, he makes the comment (totally out of the blue): "You might kiss me." I wonder if he went home and told his wife about that! So much for secrets, eh?
It's such a pity you are the one who has to suffer because of his incapabilities. Exactly.
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> I would ask, if you can, about where your confidentiality stands in all of this.I plan to.
Are your sessions with him confidential and why has he compromised your privacy in this way. Also perhaps ask him why he felt the need to bring his wife into the room in this way.
Well, I asked him WHO read his e-mails....but I still don't want to hear about his wife.
I think this is a cover story and a bad one at that - there's a lot more going on here it seems.
I think you are right on!
I'm really sorry you have had this door closed on you - I will still e-mail him, and I told him so, LOL, LOL
it's another form of support taken away and it was unfair of him to have done this without giving you the real reason.
Yes, first he took away my hug (then 2 weeks ago pulls me on top of him while in his chair)....it's amazing; I keep the boundaries) then the day that was convenient for me (Sunday), because his "family" wanted him home more, then the e-mail.....
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> Take care Sassy - this must be hard.
Thankyou, ((((Witti)))....your support and common sense means the world to me.I mean I've lived a lifetime of rejection; did I really need more? I intend to let him have it.
Hugs and Love, Sassy
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> Witti
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