Posted by lucie lu on October 24, 2008, at 14:53:15
In reply to Re: Great Answers » lucie lu, posted by antigua3 on October 24, 2008, at 9:02:31
> You are anything but dim lucie lu. You are one of the smartest, most insightful people here on Babble...
Oh gosh... you can't see me but I'm turning pink! This a very fast, very sharp crowd we travel with on babble, so that was a nice thing for you to say, antigua. I enjoy reading your posts too :-)
Anyway, my kids keep me humble.
> As I mentioned above, I think he would have abided by No. 3 if I had chosen it. While I think he backed off from it because he thought No. 2 was the best option, I think he was offering two ends of the spectrum with No. 1 and 3. I think I push his buttons and he got caught. It's kind of fun sometimes to do this to him intentionally, to show him that his strict CBT approach needs more sometimes, even though he openly admits that he mixes therapy types where appropriate.I have to say, Antigua, that I have thought from your other posts that your pdoc sounds rather intriguing. It reminded me of how the genders are supposed to have different sorts of relationships with babies - men stimulating and bouncy, women soothing and calming. You seem to have the best of both worlds.
> I'm a challenging patient for him, whether he'll admit it or not, but he respects the challenge. I believe we are at the point in our relationship that if I really needed him, he would be there for me. That certainly hasn't always been the case, but I think my trust has grown.
Many feel that the difficult relationships are the most interesting. At least that's what I keep telling myself.
> No, he's not perfect. My T isn't either. Neither am I! But he has helped me to move forward in life and to deal with the anxiety and fear that has kept me from having the courage to accomplish some of the goals in my life. It's just that sometimes I need to stop and deal w/something NOW, and not wait. He respects that now in a way that I didn't think was possible.
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> Remind me of this when I rant and rave about him next time. I do re-evaluate, often, whether he is still helping me, and my T agrees that he is still useful!I'm glad you didn't drop out of therapy :)
> There is strong transference going on, I am aware of that, and to be able to bring it into the room w/him has helped me. Negative transference has its benefits, although it can be very difficult.
Look forward to hearing about it.
> antigua
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