Posted by raisinb on October 22, 2008, at 14:12:09
In reply to Make a Choice, posted by antigua3 on October 22, 2008, at 13:49:43
What a great thread. I have my own little girl, and this made me think about how progress happened for me, with her.
I would pick #2. For me, #1 implied that once I "deal with" the little girl, then I'd be "done" with her, and I could move forward. I guess I've learned that progress isn't real progress unless she's a part of it, that I learn how to walk with her. And not only take her along--value her and walk at her speed, so to speak. Because leaving her out of it would be cutting off a part of me that is fearful and blocks progress, yeah, but also a part of me that contains something beautiful--all the love and emotion I locked up because of things that happened to her.
As for #3, I didn't like the image of holding my therapist's hand while walking and talking to the little girl. Because that would imply that I was focusing on the therapeutic relationship, rather than my relationship with myself, and I guess the latter feels like a better focus for me right now.
But that's me of course :)
I think it's a great, very vivid way of illustrating a complex dilemma. Maybe there's hope for your pdoc after all!
poster:raisinb
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