Posted by Dinah on October 20, 2008, at 8:56:04
In reply to Re: Want to know more about ruptures » lucie lu, posted by seldomseen on October 20, 2008, at 6:34:05
> "Make up therapy" is the best therapy of all. You just have to work to get to it.
:)
We hardly get that anymore! A good thing overall, I suppose.
My therapist is good at rupture repair. But I think I might be better at it. He's good enough when it's brought to his attention. But he sure as heck isn't going to notice the small ruptures unless I tell him what's going on with me. He's not that in tune with my every feeling. He picks up on the bigger ones of course.
What he's better at is staying nondefensive, owning what part is his while unaggressively pointing out where my standard patterns might be influencing my thoughts. He doesn't hold grudges.
I was planning to start a thread on the good enough therapist before I fell to pieces. My therapist just isn't as perceptive as Twinleaf's. I feel a little pang sometimes when I hear about her therapist or Daisy's therapist.
Rupture repair is one area where I have to do a heck of a lot more work than he does. Work to figure out I'm upset, work to express precisely why I'm upset in terms he understands, and sometimes work to remember our overall relationship and how strong it is. Each rupture might well not get repaired, at least not by proper attunement from my therapist. But our overall relationship is strong enough that unhealed small cracks don't endanger the wind rating of the entire structure.
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