Posted by muffled on October 11, 2008, at 7:58:16
In reply to Re: Disclosure » DAisym, posted by lemonaide on October 11, 2008, at 5:14:47
I am so happy Daisy has the relationship she has with her T. As my old T used to say, we BOTH work very hard in therapy. We work ToGETHER to try and help me. She honestly cared. So I paid her to help me, because then it was OK that it was all about me. thats how T works.
It is a relationship between two HUMAN beings, with all their own baggage and faults. A good T will be able to keep their own stuff out of the room for the most part, but they are human, they will screw up. But TOGETHER t and client work thru it, and this strengthens trust and the realtionship.
However, the frightening aspect of this all for me, is that it all happens behind closed doors, behind a shroud of secrecy.
This is where I LOVE that there are websites such as this where people can talk about their therapy, and hopefully get good input from others they have come to trust on that website, as to how their therapy is going. They can ask questions.
Cuz terrible that it may be, there are some truly messed up t's out there.
There are also t's that are just not a good fit.
Or sometimes its not intentional harm,but its an ongoing dysfunctional relationship btwn client and t and neither are recognizing it.
So I think its great, and important to talk about these things.
None of us should have been hurt in the first place if all was right and fair. But we live in a fallen world, so we must take care and try and watch out for and help others when we can.
I am glad lemonaide has been able to get out of T relationships that have been either unethical or just not working, it is a good example to me.
I am always happy to hear of daisys T, cuz it gives me hope that there ARE amazing souls out there in this world.
My thanks to you both for sharing your stories.
M
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