Posted by DAisym on October 10, 2008, at 21:07:49
In reply to Re: Things my T shouldn't have disclosed to me. » lemonaide, posted by Dinah on October 8, 2008, at 22:21:06
I'm not defending your therapist. I'm not. Please hear this.
But...
A list like this, without context, seems awfully unfair. I'm thinking of some of the things that my therapist has said to me, which were exactly the right things to say, at the moment they were said, but standing alone could sound very damaging. Telling you that things remind him of you would be a sweet, nice thing to do, if it isn't sexualized. If I remember correctly, at one point you really wanted him to come and hear you play. So of course trumpet players remind him of you. Stuff like that. Once my therapist said, "hey, I saw a license plate on a Hummer that said, "Daisy." I thought, 'that's what she needs!'" I liked that he thought about me. It made me smile. He often says, "I missed you last whenever" because we had to skip a session. Stuff like that.
Again - I'm not defending your therapist. But as someone who is going through a divorce where someone else keeps saying, "once she said X" without the whole conversation being discussed - I'm sensitive to this.
Perhaps Racer is right. Maybe filing a complaint will help you get resolution to all of it instead of turning it over in your mind again and again.
I hope you find peace soon.
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