Posted by lemonaide on October 11, 2008, at 5:37:13
In reply to Disclosure and Reporting -- CSA/T/Suicide triggers, posted by toetapper on October 10, 2008, at 23:13:13
Thanks Toe tapper, your post means so much to me. I am so glad you posted. Unfortunately, your experience in what happened when you reported it, is not all that uncommon. I hear it is like going through the abuse a 2nd time because you are made out to be the crazy one. To me it is the ultimate abuse of power when they use their power and influence to show they are sane ones, and not the client.
I also think about my future as a T, and somehow I can see it backfiring on me when I become a T because of our town and who he knows. I suppose I could practice in some other town not near by though.
I believe he took full advantage of my marriage problems, and my attraction to him.
I am trying to overcome all of the hurt and harm he caused. And not to diminish the harm he did to me, it does reflect some prior relationships I had with men when I was a teen, who took advantage of my situation. For some reason, I didn't go along with these situations. I fired my T and I broke of relationship with those who tried the same sort of thing.
I do believe I can move past this, but it is going to take some time for me to get the anger and sadness out. I hope Babblers can bare with me during this, it is going to be hard. I have a lady T who has some experience with dealing with clients who had unethical T's. There is another one in town I guess too, and we are a small city. This stuff happens way more than it should.
Toetapper, you are not crazy and neither am I.Can you reflect with what helped you move on? Maybe it would be helpful for me and others too.
Thanks again so much for your post, we don't know each other, but the fact you would take the time to post to Babble about this, means so much to me.
poster:lemonaide
thread:856861
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20081005/msgs/856884.html