Posted by DAisym on October 11, 2008, at 0:03:28
In reply to Disclosure and Reporting -- CSA/T/Suicide triggers, posted by toetapper on October 10, 2008, at 23:13:13
"I found, in my own work, that there is something SO POWERFUL, for victims of CSA, about that "relationship" with a T that you can NEVER TELL. That is FORBIDDEN. That is NOT ALLOWED. It carries so many of the same hallmarks as the abuse itself, it makes me sick to my stomach when I think about it. And that is what finally allowed me to heal. To FINALLY see the pattern of abuse. I guess, in a way, he "cured" me afterall."
This is so true - which is why working with an ethical therapist is so important. But how are we to know at the beginning who is and who isn't? I think that is why we must talk to each other and not keep our therapy such a secret. We are truly in that bind of being the patient - the one with "issues." It is an easy out for many therapists. Reminds me of all those "false-memory syndrome" folks - parents who used this to discredit the daughter who was finally telling. No one would make this stuff up and have to suffer through it again with telling.
I'm really sorry this happened to you. But I must point out that YOU obviously worked very hard to "cure" you - he gets no credit in my book.
Thanks for sharing.
poster:DAisym
thread:856861
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