Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 10, 2008, at 10:22:50
In reply to Good Enough Mother--Dinah and others, posted by antigua3 on October 10, 2008, at 10:11:15
My "mother" story......she was emotionally and physically abusive....we had a verrry difficult life (which is all in my memoir/so it all worked out fine for me, LOL!)
Grew up in a 120-year old tenement house; cockroaches, rats (they didn't visit us too often/fear of my mother).
She had to work (I was the only kid without a father that I knew).....snow came in thru a crack in the wall; no phone, refrigerator or bathroom (toilet in the attic--always fun at night), molested by a drunken neighbor, and had my hand held over an open fire by another neighbor.
My mother had all she could do just to survive (no child support or programs)......I was her stress relief.
I decided i would never be like her, and I accomplished that. I think I was the best mother anyone could ever have had.
In being the kind of parent I wanted....I in turn, parented/nurtured and loved.....myself
My (sordid,LOL) was published: www.psychiatricjournal.com, entitled: The Transcendent Child on Overcoming Verbal and Spiritual Abuse
(my own site: www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com)
Love, Sassy
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