Posted by Suedehead on October 7, 2008, at 23:10:11
In reply to Re: Mutual attraction, posted by DAisym on October 7, 2008, at 22:18:09
Hmm...well, uncomfortable as it makes me to admit it, I do think that I'm attractive, yeah. Not in every way, certainly! But on the whole, sure.
He didn't go into great detail about what he finds attractive about me, but he did say that he finds me charming and 'present' in a way that is very appealing to him. He also acknowledged that he finds me physically attractive. Of course I'd like him to elaborate, but I'm not sure what's driving that desire. Vanity? Sheer curiosity? ...? Now that I think of it, I haven't told *him* why exactly I find him attractive, either. It seems that a conversation about these things could be pretty productive.
I'm in therapy for depression and anxiety and for help in dealing with some relationship problems. I don't have a history of csa or any other kind of sexual abuse, so the potential sexualization of the therapy space is not as threatening as it could be, though, of course, it could still be pretty damaging if not handled carefully. You're right that I need to keep asking myself what all of this means to me. It's funny how hard it is to figure that out.
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