Posted by Nadezda on October 2, 2008, at 17:22:33
In reply to Re: What's the most inane conversation you've ever had » Nadezda, posted by seldomseen on September 29, 2008, at 7:21:38
Hi, Seldomseen.
I've been thinking about you and your T and wondering how it's been going.
I can really identify with your reaction of being treated, or imagined, as a child, in his saying "slapped your hand." But often people think of one another in myriad ways- they appear indifference guises at different times. One can see them among other things, as childish or as a child, without denying their standing as an adult.. It occurred to me that maybe he was shifting the accusation into a minor key-- making it seem silly rather than serious-- substituting a cookie jar for a violation of boundaries, or invasion of privacy, etc. That's such a heavy accusation--that maybe he verbally fudged, to get himself-- and in a way, you-- off the hook.
And you, being more worried about just having received a diagnosis-- about how you'll be seen, particularly by fellow professionals, despite being formally in treatment for a "disease"--might have replayed that in a scenario about a possible view of you as less than a full-fledged member of the community. It's so hard to know why people use phrases, what meanings or derivations, or insinuations they suggest.
So I wondered if you and he had revisited this last meeting, and if so, if you had a meeting of the minds about the encounter-- and also were able to move from there to something fruitful.
Nadezda
poster:Nadezda
thread:854263
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20080920/msgs/855308.html