Posted by Dinah on September 23, 2008, at 11:59:58
In reply to Stressed,full of shame,beyond repair (TRIGGER?), posted by WaterSapphire on September 23, 2008, at 9:06:02
I do understand. My husband gets angry over some of the stuff that may look like laziness to him. He has no idea of what it's like from the inside. And it's hard not to internalize some of those messages.
I know it sounds strange to say, from someone who just posted that they'll never be well, but... Well, acknowledging and accepting what is is important and necessary. It keeps us from beating ourselves up over what really can't be changed. But the acceptance isn't to give up exactly. It's to figure out what is possible, and to do what can be done.
Mind you, my strength of will is very low. It's easier for me to say that than it is to do it.
I don't know your relationship with your grandmother or your father. But is it possible that your gifts to them may not be monetary, but may be valuable anyway?
poster:Dinah
thread:853599
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