Posted by sassyfrancesca on September 19, 2008, at 8:54:28
In reply to Re: Thank you all so much! Everything..... » sassyfrancesca, posted by Dinah on September 19, 2008, at 8:12:32
> That sounds like a nice treat for yourself. I often go to restaurants alone. I enjoy having good food and service while I read a book or people watch. Enjoy!
Thankyou, I will!
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> But I hope you also treat yourself by discovering some ways to spend the evening in an environment where meeting people who could make an extended network of friends and acquaintances.I wish! As I said, I have a network of friends, but no one to hang out with.
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> Sassy, you say the reason you can't leave him is because you love him. Yet you also say that you would leave him if you had someone else in your life. Maybe it would be more helpful for you to reframe your reasons for not leaving in a way that allows for change? Like "I can't leave him because right now he's the only tangible, in person, support I have outside work."Yes, it is the I love him AND the only other tangible support-person I have in my life!
or whatever the reason may be. Something that allows for the conditions to change?
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> Those CBT reframings sound silly sometimes. I used to bite my therapist's head off over them. But they do actually help, at least sometimes, over time.I don't know anything about CBT, but what you said was true for me.
My t doesn't use a specific type of threrapy; I guess existential best describes it.
If it weren't for his personalizing our relationship; he IS the most brilliant man I've ever know; when he is professional.....wow.
Thankyou ((((Dinah)))!
hugs, Sassy
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