Posted by sassyfrancesca on September 19, 2008, at 14:39:34
In reply to Re: Thank you all so much! Everything..... » susan47, posted by fleeting flutterby on September 19, 2008, at 13:50:44
> > Your loving your T reflects that you're capable of loving yourself, but don't get caught up in loving him anymore, believe me when I tell you his interest is in himself only, he doesn't care two cr*ps about you, except as long as you feed his ego, which you do very well right now. You're feeding his ego and he's Loving it, and he might even start believing he has erotic feelings towards you, I think he's already convinced himself of that, it's obvious, isn't it Sassy? I mean, realistically, you've already said as much yourself, you don't trust him, do you? Do you? Because he can only be trusted as much as he trusts himself, and I'll bet that line is a fine one. I think possibly bringing in his reputation in the community, and his family, will turn him cold almost immediately. Bringing in any part of this thread and he has a brain and actually cares to look it up, will make him back off majorly. I think you know that too, maybe it will make you lose him, maybe it will make you two collaborate, maybe you'll have an affair ... as long as he wants it. Then he'll leave you to yourself, and you will have a lot of regrets to live with, and disappointments in yourself. Believe me, being wanted by someone like him is no great reward. Where is his Integrity? You are absolutely right, Susan!<<
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> ----I think what susan had to say here makes a lot of sense. Yes.I had an email friend and she was married and yet had an affair with her therapist-- she thought he LOVED her and she knew she loved him... and she went on and on to me how he is so attracted to her and yadda, yadda, yadda...... then he got caught-- and she soon found out how many other "special" clients he was seeing. It really messed her up bad. He lost his license in that state and blamed it on the clients and would never speak to my email friend again-- she was shattered-- to say the least. I can only imagine.
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> Sassy-- please do self-care first. It would be so awful for you to be hurt. There's a saying-- "If he's doing it WITH you, he's probably doing it TO you"...... he may have 4, 5 or 6 other "Sassys" in his life to feed his ego.Re: his ego; one night he said: "You don't love me anymore?!"
I don't think so (not because I dont want to; but it's a long story why I think that)
..... please take kind and special care of YOU-- the most important person in this situation. *hearts* and more *hearts to you.
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> flutterby- mandyHugs and Love and *hearts" to you dear flutterby-Mandy!
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