Posted by Racer on September 11, 2008, at 9:29:44
In reply to Re: Mixed feelings, But.. » Cal, posted by Dinah on September 11, 2008, at 8:11:46
My guess is that she likes the seeing clients part, but that other things start to bug her -- returning calls, writing appeals to insurance companies, tracking down no-shows to extract payment, trying to find doctors to refer people to for meds, etc. I know that's the sort of stuff my T gets sick of.
I told her recently, I thought she'd been sick of dealing with me when I was in my horrible and extended depression recently. She denied it, but you know what? I wasn't saying she was sick of dealing with *me* -- only of just having 115 pounds of misery on her sofa, instead of Racer. I still think I was right, but she did once admit that one of our bad days was due to her not being able to deal with me in that state, after a couple of bad days with another client. So maybe she was telling the truth...
Anyway, the point is -- she probably does have mixed feelings about coming back to work AND have no doubt whatsoever that she wants to see clients and enjoys seeing clients. My guess is that she's doing this BECAUSE she enjoys seeing clients.
Have you considered asking her what it is that she has mixed feelings about? It may not be that she wasn't sure she wanted to come back, but that she wanted to come back AND do whatever else she was doing. Maybe asking her just to tell you what the mixed feelings were about would help you?
And I'd bet talking about how hard it was for you to ask for the reassurance, despite how much this bothered you, would lead to some pretty interesting areas... I know it has for me when I've had to do that...
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