Posted by JayMac on September 1, 2008, at 3:07:13
In reply to Drop and Dash aka Doorknob Confession, posted by Poet on August 31, 2008, at 14:13:39
> I'm sure we've all done it. Said something to our T at the end of the session that s/he will want to discuss first thing next session.
I've definitely done it. I think I've done it just to be sure my T is thinking about me while I'm away.
> I told her that I'm afraid my husband will have an affair because I haven't had sex with him for close to two years. He thinks it's my meds. T knows it's much more than that and now I'm afraid she'll think I'm ready to talk about CSA and other trauma that I avoid. I just know after her standard "how was your week" she's going to say "what about what you said as you were leaving last week?" Uh, what about it? I suspect that answer will not fly.
Many Ts are used to doorknob confessions. They know how to deal with them. Depending on her style, she might bring it up next time you see her OR she will let you discuss it when you are ready.
To me a doorknob confession, such as yours, would greatly suggest that there's something you really really need to talk about, but can barely get it out until it's almost too late. It's never too late to discuss something as important as your relationship with your husband. It's not too late to repair things with him. It's not too late to get your needs met with your husband AND it's not too late to get your needs met with your T.
This is definitely a topic you need to speak to her about. Whether that's in a couple days, weeks, or months is up to you, but it sounds like you need to let her in.
I hope that helps :)
Take good care,
JayMac
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