Posted by Nadezda on August 28, 2008, at 14:47:48
In reply to Re: The Need to Reveal What Happened, posted by susan47 on August 28, 2008, at 12:19:55
I have to agree with B2chica and Partly Cloudy-- keep posting the same thing, if you have to. It's hard to read, I admit, because you're in a lot of pain, but I've been there, too. Maybe a lot of us have.
I've talked something to death and then some, several times--until I hated to hear myself talk about it, even when I felt like I couldn't help it-- It takes time and work to move through and past something so compelling and compulsive-- but you can. DBT can help; it's helping me, although only now, after meds and a lot of time-- to cope with the remnants of several things.
Just work, for one thing, on not beating yourself up for phoning once in a while. It's okay. It's tragic that this happened, but as B2c says, you can detach, step away from immersion in the feeling, to know its a feeling-- not simply reality-- not the way it "has" to be forever, even if you have to accept, maybe more deeply than you have so far, that it's the way it is now.
Even if it's been a long time-- things can change now, in the future. If you believe that, it's the first step in making it happen.
Nadezda
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