Posted by Daisym on August 14, 2008, at 23:52:17
In reply to Re: Losing control - trigger » Daisym, posted by sunnydays on August 14, 2008, at 12:45:56
I call it my Pavlovian response - come in, sit down, pull a pillow in my lap and feel all the feelings I've been avoiding. Sometimes it is truly overwhelming and surprising. I think that we wait to feel difficult things until we have someone to help us hold all of it.
I wish it wasn't so scary for you to be happy. I totally get it though - I'm terrified to admit to needing or liking something, it will get ruined somehow. But the direct link between pleasure, fear and pain is hard to take - I feel so much rage when thinking about it. It is like being punished in yet another way. Ug.
As far as it being good that I challenge him - I'm not always so sure. We talked a week or so ago about the thread above about CBT therapies and ways of approaching trauma. He asked me if I was wishing he worked in a different way. I sensed that he was really wondering if I was criticizing our work together by talking about the thread. I wasn't - but of course there are always things we wished they were open to. (Like camp outs under his desk.)
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