Posted by DAisym on August 15, 2008, at 20:41:24
In reply to Re: Losing control - trigger » Daisym, posted by llurpsienoodle on August 15, 2008, at 13:28:22
Thanks but I'm having chocolate cupcakes for dinner.
Perhaps what I'm struggling with is scale and titration. I keep thinking of it as all or nothing. I'm either completely surface with people - all about them, not me - or I'm dumping all this horrible stuff on them. How much do you tell to achieve intimacy without freaking someone out? And how do you interject that into a conversation? "Oh yes, I remember last year when I was suicidal..." Seems to me that would be a bit of a wet blanket on things.
But I like what you said about it all being real in some form or another. Self-psychology postulates that we acquire false-selves to protect our core self - and these selves are adaptive and necessary for functioning. It is the empty space between the false self and the core self that holds the darkness - so if we could merge the two, there would be very little room for the darkness. I think just dropping a flash light in would be so much easier.
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