Posted by Lemonaide on July 24, 2008, at 11:21:53
In reply to I Love My T.....I Hate My T/Twisted in Knots, posted by sassyfrancesca on July 24, 2008, at 8:13:38
Hey Sassy Twin,
I know you are in love with him, I have no doubts about that.
But you know what, I hope this is okay to say, you know I want the best for you, I really do.
But he doesn't deserve you Sassy. He is not only doing the things he does, but look at what he is doing to his wife. You deserve someone to treat you like you are the only one in the world. You are way better looking than anyone he could ever hope for. Then to add your talents, and spunk. I think you deserve someone so much better and I think if you weren't hoping for something major to happen with your T (like him leaving his wife), you would find that lucky guy. I am sure you friends feel like I do, wanting to turn him in for what he has done. I would rather you leave him though in a better way.
You know i have been in a simular situation with my T, and I know it hurts like HELL to leave, but I did it, I did it for me. You have also done what I am doing, trying to make a better life for myself by going back to school. You have so much going for you and it pains me to see you give all of that up for your T. I believe he is holding you back from having the fulfilling life you deserve.
I also know the love/hate feelings. I feel that way about my old T. I will be meeting with him soon to talk about how he hurt me. My current T said that coming from my past, I am sensitive to rejection and when my old T said he wouldn't come to my funeral if I died, it devastated me. I trusted him and he kicked me in the gut because of his fear of his feelings. My current T is meeting with him this week to discuss this before I see my old T.
I saw my current two days after I fired my old one. I am not sure if I would be alive today if I didn't have a soft place to fall after I fired my old T. You know he meant the world to me, but that put me in a very vulnerable position.Your T is hurting you deeper than I think you probably know. How can someone love you when they are willing to hurt you like this? He is playing with fire and after all the abuse you have survived, SHAME ON HIM.
I know you love him, and I don't want to dog him because it probably hurts you too to hear it. But sassy, you should move on, get a new T and have your life fulfilled. So many good guys are looking for a babe like yourself, but you have to be open to the possibility. You need a T to help you with the things you lost in your life. Your current T is not being objective like he should be. You need that to heal you life.
You take care of yourself. I know I am not writing anything you don't know in your heart. Please be kind for yourself. Life live to your potential.
poster:Lemonaide
thread:841755
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