Posted by rskontos on July 3, 2008, at 17:17:11
In reply to Re: On Regard » backseatdriver, posted by Lucie Lu on July 3, 2008, at 16:57:59
You know until I read this thread and backseatdriver's earlier post, I never thought about whether or not my therapist has regard, or positive transference. I guess in my own distant way, I just did not chose to reflect on his personal or professional feelings for me. Now, I know he "feels" something since I went in there three weeks ago to "quit" and he fought for me to not do that. He did not ever tell me he had regard or feelings or anything. But then again, maybe, because he knows that might just freak me out. He does like to say I have always stayed in relationships whereby I am the one in control. That is mainly true in those since I left my parents house. But a sense of regard from him. I guess I just choose not to think about his motivations right now. Even when he offered to treat me for free if money was motivation in quitting, I did not think why he really cares for me.
I guess in part, because if I think about his regard, feelings or motivation, then i would become part of the process of having to be responsible for the existence of that. And that I cannot take right now. Please tell me if anyone understands this?
perhaps this is part of why I don't trust and have trust issues.
rsk
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