Posted by All Done on June 17, 2008, at 14:14:44
In reply to Re: It's that time of year » All Done, posted by Daisym on June 17, 2008, at 2:14:44
> I passed the five year mark at the end of May. I still haven't given him the gift I put together. At first I thought it was because we weren't in a good place and then there were these weird breaks. But I've come to know that I'm afraid to point out this milestone - what if 5-years shocks him and he realizes how little progress I've made? Will he then refer me to someone else? Or what if he thinks, "I can't do another five years of this!" and decides to terminate?
There is NO way he's going to think any of those things, Daisy. It's good that you're thinking about talking to him about your concerns. I'm guessing his reflection on your five years together might look very different from what you expect.
> *sigh* And the gift I made is pretty cute - we have a long standing joke about him needing his therapy can-opener on Mondays because it is hard for me to start talking again. So I bought a kitchen can opener and painted it gold and made him a certificate that appoints him the winner of this year's golden opener award. :) Silly? I know he will laugh though...That's very clever! I bet he'll love it. Do you think he'll make an acceptance speech?
> Maybe this is something to actually talk about in a session - how hard it is to celebrate with him right now.
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> I think anytime you decide to acknowledge the work you've done together is the time to do that. Maybe the session before your vacation? Or maybe you just pick a date and tell him, "on this date I'd like to stop and reflect" so that it is set up ahead of time. Because sometimes the perfect time just never comes.I think everyone's right on this. I'm going to try my hardest not to push anything too soon. It's hard for me, though. I'm usually all about the dates, and I'm afraid if I don't give myself an actual deadline, I'll just drop it and forget about it.
> Good luck on this. It is nice to see you here.Thank you, Daisy. It feels nice to be here. :)
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