Posted by All Done on June 17, 2008, at 13:44:44
In reply to Re: It's that time of year » All Done, posted by Dinah on June 16, 2008, at 12:14:49
> I'm on my way out the door, but I wanted to answer with my kneejerk reaction before I forget it.
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> I am sorry I celebrated my therapy anniversary this year on the anniversary. The moment wasn't right, and it made the whole thing not right.
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> He took the gift (a small river rock) graciously, acknowledged the symbolism of it, put it on the bookshelf next to some of his other treasures from nature, and put each one in my hands while gently explaining how he came to have each. It was really nice, and it made me think that he might even remember where he got this rock. Maybe.
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> But I wasn't feeling the right way to give it, and overall I really wish I had waited. There were times when it would have been right, and it was small enough to tuck in my purse and bring with me, along with the card, until the moment was right.
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> So I'd say if it's possible, don't force it. The date isn't as important as the feeling.I could see almost the same thing happening to me. I imagine my T will only be gracious about accepting a gift regardless of the timing, but I would still feel like there's something off. And like you, I think I want the overall feeling to be right.
Then again, my T always seems to zero in on things when I say something about one minor (definition debatable) detail or one thing "ruining everything".
I'm glad your T accepted your gift so nicely. It's good that you have that moment to hang on to now.
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