Posted by All Done on June 16, 2008, at 12:09:11
Hi, everyone.
I'm coming up on my therapy anniversary. Every year, I've given my T a gift and and each one has had some meaning, and I've been able to write in the card about the good work we've done.
This year, it's five years - a sort of big one. The thing is, we've been really struggling for a couple of months now with a lot of issues in our therapeutic relationship. There are too many to go into, but nearly every session has been about ironing out scheduling or financial differences, my distress at several changes he's made recently, or me just plain b*tching and yelling at him (about him).
For a couple of reasons, I'm going back from three sessions every two weeks to one session a week. And my T told me he has to cancel this coming Saturday's session. So, I'm not going to see him for two weeks. The actual anniversary date is within those two weeks. So, normally, I would arrive at the next session with a gift.
I don't even feel like I can pick something out at this point. And while I know the whole year - or five years - hasn't been like it is now, I think timing wise, it might feel odd to try to pull the good stuff in right now. Does that make sense?
Should I try to get a gift? Just skip this year? I'm leaning toward delaying any gift giving (I don't know that he knows the date...or really cares...anyway), but if I do that, should I mention it at the next session? Or just show up with a gift in July or August or whenever things settle down?
Ugh...as always, I'm sorry to be gone for so long and then pop up with a problem.
Thanks, (((((babblers))))).
Laurie
poster:All Done
thread:834885
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