Posted by Nadezda on June 9, 2008, at 10:20:13
In reply to Re: worried about sth happening to T(She's ok now) » frida, posted by raisinb on June 9, 2008, at 9:31:39
That was such an unfortunate coincidence that your T should have lost your information-- and also not be able to handle the situaton a little better. That something should happen to her is a frightening thought-- but it's a thought, not a reality. However awful, it's one of these possibilities we live with-- things that would be extremely difficult to handle-- but they are only possibilities...things in the future that may not happen, and whose happening our fears don't affect.
So the fear is there-- but it doesn't help to cope-- and there's a lot of evidence that people cope much better than they fear or believe they will. The only thing I can offer is that you have to accept the fear, but not focus on it. Suspending it-- putting it into a place where it doesn't get in the way of what's happening in your life-- and trusting that it wont happen-- but that it does, you'll find your way through.
Your T is okay; and the fears will recede. I would definitely accept and express them, but try not to let them take over--
You have so much more worthwhile and good things to do with your energy,
I'm very glad that everything did work out well-- and hope that your T gets your contact information correct-- you might make sure she has your cell number in her book-- and am sorry that you went through such a disturbing, and exceptional, disruption with her.
Nadezda
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