Posted by Happyflower on May 16, 2008, at 12:10:53
In reply to This may be as good as it gets (Too long), posted by Dinah on May 16, 2008, at 11:50:36
Hi Dinah,
You sure have been thinking a lot about your life and that is great. It sounds like you are comfortable with who you are, the positive the negative. We all have both sides, and the fact that you accept that in others and yourself is huge I think.
I think a lot of us go through our lives, take stock inventory. I think life is a journey, not a destination. We all have things to work on, and when we work on them, we will have new things to work on. Kinda like dusting the house, you dust one day and it appears again and again. It isn't that you are not a failure at dusting, it is just the way things are.
Maybe try to list all the things you are grateful for and I bet your list doesn't look so shabby.
You have a good marriage, a good son who both love you so much. Even that is more than what others might have. Sure some things you can improve on, but somehow if you manged to do everything, you would probably die, because there wouldn't be much to life for and life would be really dull.
Dinah,
you are a wonderful person and maybe too hard on yourself.
My doctor told me this the other day, he said this is your life and it is only so long, then it is over. Make your life to be what you want it to be because in the end it only matters how you feel about it.
I thing I am free associating right now, but I hope it makes some sense. But what you are going through is a common dilemma most of us go through because to the nature of being a human being.
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