Posted by twinleaf on May 15, 2008, at 21:09:17
In reply to I'm happy, ((((((my T))))))) My session today, posted by Happyflower on May 15, 2008, at 11:25:16
How wonderful that you have formed a really loving, trusting relationship with your T in the here and now!....AND that you can count on the relationship being there even as you might eventually move into more of a mentor relationship with him. The wonderful bottom line is that you won't ever lose him, but will be able to have a meaningful connection to him in whatever way you need as you grow and change in the future. Who could ask for anything more?
My own T is very similiar to yours. He is the one who once wrote, "the therapist is the patient's fate". When I somehow landed in his office, I didn't know what to expect, but, over the past year, we, too, have built a really good relationship. We don't always talk about the traumas of the past; I've come to really appreciate the value of recognizing, and talking about, the things that are so good about what happens between us in the present- the calm, warmth and understanding in his eyes, the subtle humor, the so steady welcome, the complete acceptance...
He also said that he would "never leave me" (he's 64, so much like yours). Like you, I might often go in feeling distressed and down on myself, but I almost NEVER leave that way!
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