Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2008, at 10:31:11
In reply to Therapist is Testing me, posted by Amanda29 on April 25, 2008, at 20:18:22
I wish therapists wouldn't change boundaries abruptly. It seems to me that in four years of therapy he could have steered things in the direction he wished without making a sudden course change.
But I guess I don't know what's in his mind.
Have things changed lately with emails and phone calls that he might have decided a policy change was a good idea? Has he ever indicated that he'd like to put limits on phone calls and emails?
It seems very strange to me. But my therapist is, in that way at least, a very stable presence. I can't imagine any sudden course changes in our relationship. I can imagine sudden course changes in his life that might affect therapy, but I can't imagine his deliberately changing what's going on in the room. He set the boundaries he was comfortable with early on, and has been firm with them consistently. (Plus he's developed the skill of being so very bad on the phone and email that I have no real desire to contact him that often.)
So I tend to be a bit taken aback at therapists who abruptly introduce change in the therapeutic relationship frame.
Do you have any insight into why he may have made this change at this time? Teaching you autonomy is a laudable goal. But has he told you why he has chosen to do this right now? And so abruptly?
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