Posted by twinleaf on April 22, 2008, at 10:17:23
In reply to interpret my T's dream, please? *long*, posted by raisinb on April 21, 2008, at 20:41:54
I'm going to come down on the side that your therapist is not maintaining optimal boundaries. You have a therapeutic relationship with her; any time she introduces personal information- whether it is that her little son wouldn't take a nap, or telling you a dream that she had about you, she is weighting the relationship with information and feelings which are not properly a part of your therapy. In particular, a dream like the one she told you is not at all helpful- there are issues in the dream, possibly including guilt, which are HERS, not yours.
While it is true that in all long-term therapies we do come to know personal things about our therapists- they wouldn't be human if we didn't- overall the best therapists do keep the focus firmly on us. The way your therapist is behaving, you have your own self to understand and deal with, but you also have HER, with all of her complexities. If she is having issues with raising a little child (as we all do), or with her concerns about how your treatment is going, she, and you, would be much better off consulting privately about them. Would you be able to talk about this with her?
poster:twinleaf
thread:824681
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20080405/msgs/824776.html