Posted by raisinb on April 21, 2008, at 22:39:21
In reply to I think I am pretending in T.....(triggerspossible, posted by rskontos on April 21, 2008, at 18:20:14
Rsk, I have a couple of thoughts.
First of all, I feel strongly that part of intensive therapy is a "chemistry" between therapist and client. That means that you can't just bond with anyone, and that just because you can't bond with this man doesn't mean you can't attach to someone else. Also, it's hard to do deep work without that chemistry.
I've seen eight or ten therapists in my life and never felt deep things for any of them (and never really felt deep things in the sessions). I always felt like we were playing some kind of game--the game where the therapist pretends to be insightful and sounds good, and I nod, trying to be the good client. The one I'm with now is the only one I've felt real with (and that's so painful it does not happen all the time).
But that is just in my experience, so take it with a grain of salt. If you have been able to be real--and helped--with him in the past, then maybe it can happen again.
I do think I'd struggle very much with a sleepy therapist. Someone who wasn't totally with me-even though it wasn't his choice--would make me close up just like you are.
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