Posted by rskontos on April 21, 2008, at 22:35:53
In reply to Re: self esteem, how to get it? » Happyflower, posted by raisinb on April 21, 2008, at 22:22:11
Happyflower, I think raisinb is on to something. Knowing our real self is hard because we weren't given time to know our selves as a child. IT was taking away. To often we try to be what we see the world as valuing and that in turn does not always make us happy. So we keep trying to get it right and not always succeeding. In order to get self esteem we must try to first know our true selves. And that is so very hard now as an adult with so many roles we took up before we knew ourselves very well.
I realized I went to school and became a teacher out of default not because that was what I wanted. Now I haven't a clue what I the real me really wants. I know if I figure it out I could do a bang up job at it, it is just being able to get to my real self to discover that. I am still peeling back layers looking at what I find and marveling at it. So in time I will find it. I think for right now I have to be satisfied with knowing what I don't want to do and get some small self esteem from that.
After all self esteem is in my own definition knowing your self and holding it in high regard. How many of us were ever given that chance. Second chances are being created by us, and that is hard work, fulfilling I think but really hard.
I think that each of us, and especially you when you think about are working slowly but measurably toward the goal of having self esteem. However, when you try to measure it in huge amounts like you are perhaps it is tougher.
I would say you are growing in it daily, I see it, we all see it here, it is just that HF you must now try to define it for yourself so that you can measure it too.
rsk
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