Posted by sassyfrancesca on April 15, 2008, at 10:40:08
In reply to confronting an old therapist, posted by wishingstar on April 13, 2008, at 18:47:49
Hi, sweetie: I remember you. I left about 2 years ago (still in love after 5 years with my t; such a long story, LOL)
I call what you want "Restorative Justice" This is what you did. This is how it made me feel.....most important words I ever heard in my life (from my t).
The point is; it doesn't matter what THEY do or say; only what you have to say about how you were hurt. I believe that is validating and important...and for me......is necessary after a lifetime of abuse.
It is excellent that your t is validating you. If you can psych yourself up for disappointment in not getting what you need from the "old" t, then I would go for it. It will still hurt, but perhaps won't be so devastating if you are as prepared as you can be; especially when you are talking about it with your t. Perhaps you could write everything down that you want to discuss with her, so you don't get de-tailed or upset, etc....
It is about YOU and NOT about what she thought or thinks; done in a respectful way, you can walk out with a weight lifted and know you did what you needed to.....for YOU.
Love, Alice (formerly Allison)
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