Posted by Daisym on March 29, 2008, at 22:50:10
In reply to Re: Wise wise words » raisinb, posted by seldomseen on March 29, 2008, at 14:44:32
I think the inconsistency would drive me crazy too. There are times when I think my therapist has withdrawn or is distracted and I will usually ask if he is OK. More often, I'll bring it up the next session - "you seemed distant yesterday" or something like that. Often he reflects on it and will tell me if he agrees or doesn't - but I'd say more than half the time we trace it back to either me or the subject. I'm not saying it is all you here - but the combination of both you obviously goes astray at times.
The only other thing I'll add is about good sessions - I bet many people here would agree with what you said about maybe one really good session every couple of weeks. I think therapy is a cycle of climbing to the top of mountains - fighting your way up an overgrown path or even cutting the D@mn path yourself! Sometimes you slide down, further than you were before and you begin again. And then there are those sessions when you get to the top - and man does that feel good! And for a few sessions it is downhill - easier, but downhill picks up speed and might get out of control and then you have to climb all over again.
One of the things I've actually learned is that when something is super important to me I will ask my therapist directly to tell me how he feels about it. It is sometimes easier to accept disappointment when you understand more about someone's thought process or reasoning. Can you ask her, "why is it so hard for you to tell me that you care but you seem to be able to show it?"
I just hope you get to a less painful place soon.
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