Posted by raisinb on March 13, 2008, at 9:22:09
In reply to Monday, posted by crushedout on March 12, 2008, at 22:50:30
This is a tough decision. I can't tell you the right thing to do. There have been so many times when my T (in my opinion) let her personal issues interfere with our sessions, and I stuck it out and let the trust and love I felt for her reappear.
But it's been three years and I *still* am not 100% sure I made the right decision.
I guess my gut agrees with the other posters, though. If you give her several more sessions and the trust doesn't reappear, and this incident keeps poisoning your work together, then you'll have a clearer idea of the correct course of action.
I, too, tend to walk away from things when they get scary or hard. It's hard to let go of the idea that a relationship or person should be perfect.
On the other hand, I think that Ts (and others) often use the defense "you want me to be perfect!" or "human are flawed and you must learn that" as a *defense* against seeing the validity in a client's criticisms.
I think only time will tell.
poster:raisinb
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