Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2008, at 12:29:58
In reply to Re: Feeling ready to quit, posted by annierose on March 6, 2008, at 20:16:23
I really do believe that. I could be deluding myself, though, I suppose. Or maybe on the surface, I get over things like this quickly, when I decide I want to, but deep down they stay with me for a very long time.
I don't know. When my last cat died, whom I loved very, very much, I got over it immediately. I did all my grieving in advance. But I still miss him. I guess that's a different situation.
With this relationship, I am so quickly convincing myself that the whole thing has been a sham, and that she hasn't really known me at all, so I am just happy to cut bait as soon as I can, even if it's way later than I should have.
But you make excellent points. I have shared a lot with her, and I know it's going to be a big loss. Ignoring that will do me little good.
Thanks for posting. You are right that we haven't spoken yet. I sent her that one brief email, and as I'd hoped, she has not replied (she normally doesn't).
I'm pretty sure I will go in on Monday, but I don't feel happy about it. I'm really scared, to be honest. If she doesn't behave professionally, I don't know what I'm going to do. I wish I could bring a friend or something to protect me. That's how scared I feel of her.
> >>>I imagine I'll be very sad, but I'll get over it quickly<<<
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> Do you really believe that to be true?
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> You have invested a great deal of time in this relationship. And it's a special type of relationship, someone whom you shared the emotional part of your life.
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> I don't know. I hope you give yourself time to sort through your anger and disappointment at how she handled this situation.
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> It sounds like you still haven't spoken to her since this happened. I know from my therapy, when I leave therapy so angry, feeling like I want to quit, the next session is often illuminating. A lot of good work can happen in repairing a relationship.
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