Posted by Racer on March 5, 2008, at 21:43:52
In reply to Homework Help Needed, posted by DAisym on March 5, 2008, at 19:47:56
I have similar-but-different issues. You know that for years if I called my T, we'd then have to have a "was it OK for me to call? when is it OK for me to call?" session. And there was history at other {ahem} sources of therapy that led to this...
What I've found is that I freak out if I wonder whether I can call. And if I'm told to call and check in -- I don't feel the need. My guess is that I feel a more secure attachment, so I don't have that insecurity of wondering if anyone is there when I reach out.
I don't know. What I know is that the stuff above is still hitting me hard, so I'm not making all that much sense... But I suspect that you might have something of what I've got -- that fear that, if you reach out, you'll be told that you're too needy, that you should be able to take care of yourself, etc. Maybe meditate on what it would feel like if you were supposed to call him twice a day? What would that feel like for you? Maybe that's a starting place.
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