Posted by JoniS on February 12, 2008, at 14:36:06
In reply to No wonder we never talk about that, posted by Dinah on February 12, 2008, at 12:09:45
Dinah
I find it so pecular that your T would so strongly impress upon you his ideas of what you should do, in this case, giving to charity. I thought T's generally try to avoid influencing their patients with their own agenda. It's kind of scary, really, because they are in such a position of powerful influence, wouldn't be just about abusive to push their agenda?
I agree with you on the whole introvert- indulgence theories. I happen to be an introvert, and yes, sometimes too self-indulgent, but I don't agree that that relationship that he described exists.
I don't even see my T agreeing that I'm ever "too ________" whether it's self-indulgent or what, doesn't that imply there is something wrong with you? Maybe even subtle "shaming"? I imagine my T might reframe the statement and help me determine what I'm needing and how to get the needs satisfied in a healthy way.
By the way, I often make purchases that I shouldn't, usually one of those impulsive, comfort craving decisions. Most of the time I end up taking the purchase back or at least part of it, within a day or 2. I used to have enough income to make impulsive purchases now and then, but these days it is not an option to spend beyond the necessary things. I've never worked on this in therapy. I'm trying to control it on my own.
I think you've been with your T for a pretty long time (if I remember correctly) but still, it seems odd to me, how he behaves.
Good Luck with that. You seem to be very wise and discerning to me, so I know you will handle this well.
Joni
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