Posted by widget on February 4, 2008, at 12:53:08
In reply to Re: still miserable about love feelings for therap, posted by sassyfrancesca on February 1, 2008, at 10:28:45
Thanks, Francesca, I just read your post to me and your other post does resonate. Where we differ is in the response we get from our therapists. I truly wonder what I would do if my therapist said he WAS interested in me? I cannot say because it hasn't happened and I don't see it happening. But, what an interesting question! I feel like if I only knew that I was special to him, that he was at least somewhat "tempted" but would never act upon his urge, I would be satisfied. I will never really know, will I? He is a staunch believer in "boundaries" which theoretically I know should be good. But, there's this need in me that seems to want to keep pushing him on the issue but I am tired of his lack of response. He must get tired of me, too. But, as I said, I think he will never change so I am now dealing with the sadness and feeling of loss of what "could have been." He has acknowledged, so nicely, that someone(like me) who has difficulty trusting due to lack of proper parenting (father) would be attracted to someone (ie:him) who seems safe, caring, all the things the father was not. He is enormously kind and patient. And, that's it; that's what draws me to him and makes him irresistible. But, the reality is there and I must live with it. Too bad, at least, I think it's too bad. I really miss my fantasies about him. Thanks, again, for being so open. Widget
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