Posted by rskontos on January 17, 2008, at 9:55:38
In reply to Re: New to Therapy, New T - Please Help (long), posted by raisinb on January 17, 2008, at 9:34:22
Phoenix, I too have deeply rooted trust issues and my t who is my p-doc knows this and accepts it readily. I however only clicked with him on a professional level because he understands my disorder. I have only told him some of my "stuff" after 5 sessions. I don't feel emotional about him if that is the click you mean. How do you want to click. I just needed professional help. This is my second try at a therapist he just happens to be a p-doc. He just happens to be one that specializes in my type of disorder for which I got lucky and he is not taking on new patients but he did me.
Now I think this new guy did bring out things in therapy and that is why you are sad after. I think for those of us with deeply rooted issues we must just decide to trust someone. Whether we click of not. Here is why, we can after so long of not trusting anyone, we can find a reason to not trust anyone. I know I can. I can pick apart anyone for any reason. I can find it. This is to keep my secrets mine. So for me, I knew I needed professional help and fast or I would disappear because with my dissociation I would eventually become a empty vessel and my emotions would become a thing of the past. Trust is something that must be earned so how can he earn it if you don't open up and give him something to begin with. It is a give and take arrangement and you must venture out with something. It does not have to be a big one at first. Start small but start somewhere. You owe it yourself and to your family (I have read some of your earlier posts and remember). It is hard, it hurts but it is necessary. I know it is struggle and struggle with it daily too. While each time I go to therapy I begin all over again. My inside folks don't like I am going to therapy and share something with this p-doc, stuff we have spent our life hiding but I still do this despite the struggle with trusting him. So for clicking, I just trust that the click will come and it did. So I would just not worry to much. I would though tell him how you feel about certain things he said that make you uncomfortable. If he doesn't respond in a way that helps the interaction between you, then you might have to do something. My new doc says that the most important thing between him and I is connection. That is what you and you T need to stay or become is connected. But you need to open up some to start the process. It is hard, it difficult but necessary. Good luck, I know what a struggle it is but it does have payoffs. rsk
Let me know how it goes.
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