Posted by JoniS on January 17, 2008, at 9:30:59
In reply to New to Therapy, New T - Please Help (long), posted by Phoenix1 on January 17, 2008, at 9:01:46
Phoenix
Here's my 2 cents from my own experience. I have never been told by a T that "...he feels like it is more like an interview than therapy because I'm not opening up..." That sounds to me like he's saying that you're not doing it right and you "should" be sensitive about how he feels. That is odd to me.
I don't think it is too early to expect that you could have "clicked" by now.
It is totally normal that you would be guarded and be slow to open up, and so your T should be totally accepting and patient and empathic about that. That reaction from him is how he builds a good relationship with you and begins to win your trust.
If you come away from your session with any feelings of "I should..." that were brought about by your T, that would be a flag for me. I would not go back. I could be mis-interpreting your experience, maybe he didn't make you feel that way.
I think it is also normal to have lots of emotion when you leave your session because of the thoughts and feelings that you were processing. That may not have much to do with your T relationship.
To summarize my 2 cents - Trust your inner feeling, intuition, gut feeling, whatever... about the T. If you don't click, look some more.
Good Luck,
Joni
ps this is really just my 2 cents. I'm sure you will want to consider what several experienced patients have to say.
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