Posted by DAisym on December 6, 2007, at 15:05:12
In reply to A book that has helped me understand my pdoc, posted by antigua3 on December 6, 2007, at 12:08:43
I have this book and like it too.
It is interesting to me how we can bounce between feeling so positive about our therapuetic relationships and then nose dive into the "do you even know what you are doing?!" place. I'm experienced enough now to sort of know that something old is driving these intense feelings, but it is still very difficult when they come up. I want to run away, quit therapy or go in and stomp my feet and yell at him - "what were you thinking?!"
It is so good that you are allowing yourself to express the thoughts in your head, even if you feel cruel. It is about the unexpressed anger held in so long. I'm sure it is hard for him not to respond in-kind, he is, after all, human... But, I'm hoping, as you are, that his training allows him to see it all for what it is and cope with it.
I suspect that smart, experienced patients are much harder to take critism from as we usually zero in on the sensitive spot and take highly articulate swings at it. My therapist has said to me, "that stings, because there is truth in what you said, but I know you are talking both to me and to someone else." And he didn't dump me - at least not yet. I'm being pretty hard on him right now, so we'll see.
Keep up the good work and let me know if there is extra room in that cedar chest for my stuff too.
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