Posted by rskontos on December 3, 2007, at 13:38:32
In reply to Re: Can't wait... » Tallulah, posted by lovelorn on December 3, 2007, at 11:50:03
Tallulah, I have just now gotten the courage to tell my T what I think. I used an email because in the past I never told people I just left them. I don't trust them so I left them. Once hurt they never got the chance again was my motto. Obviously you can not do that in Therapy and get well. Or try to get well. So now I am trying to establish my position in Therapy and it is hard. I think most of us are just used to giving up our control and running away in our heads or wherever we can to be safe. And when we do get in therapy it is hard to feel safe, to tell things to a person we don't know, we can get attached because we do finally feel safe and we still have problems saying how we really feel because maybe for some of us we couldn't do that in our past. Therapy is tough. It unravels parts of us that we have hidden so long that maybe we don't even recognize it anymore or for some never knew. If you are like me you probably went cause he told you too and you never thought about how it might help and what to expect you went cause he asked. Never thinking you might get hurt. I do things like that all the time. If you had thought about you might have had time to get your guard in place. Again, I hope this can help you and your T get to a better place and then it wasn't a loss but a growing experience which in therapy isn't always fun and sometimes does hurt but is necessary.
But in my experience all of us are not new to hurts and we are strong and weather them not to say we want to but we can!! We are fighters and we will be ok........Babblers are good caring tough strong supportive folks!!! Glad you are here......
Let us know how t goes. I will let you know how mine goes. I am talking to everyone else so I don't have a panic attack before I go......I am so DREADING it.....take care,,
rk (((((((((((((tallulah))))))))))
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