Posted by antigua3 on December 3, 2007, at 6:47:34
In reply to Re: Yet another T attraction thread--trigger, posted by beautymarked on December 2, 2007, at 19:15:47
I'm going to play the devil's advocate here and I hope I don't hurt your feelings.
In my experience, you're doing exactly what you're supposed to be doing--transferring your feelings about men on to him. Ideally in therapy, we work through these things to discover why we are atrracted to the James Spader type (I loved Sex, Lies & Videotape by the way, but haven't seen the other movie).
that said, you may not be strong enough now to work through these feelings for him, or he may not be the right one to do this with.But my goal, at least, with my pdoc, is to work through and understand why I have these feelings and how I can work through them to have healthy relationships with authoritative men and not drag my baggage onto every relationship like this that calls up my triggers and feelings.
but everyone's different. Do what's best for you, but maybe you should explore these feelings with him so they aren't so painful, and you can hopefully get through this.
Hope I haven't offended you.
antigua
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