Posted by rskontos on December 1, 2007, at 15:05:11
In reply to Yet another T attraction thread (after termination, posted by beautymarked on December 1, 2007, at 11:57:49
beautymarked, you don't say what drove you to therapy in the first place? So if your therapy with him was successful or not? It sounds like to me when reading your post that you became attracted to him and maybe that prevented you from working with him on your issues. I am not sure. If that is the case you can go at this two ways.
You could find a way to meet him and try and explore seeing on a social level. That the therapy did not work because you were too attracted and did not feel like your were a good fit for therapy. Does this make sense. It does sound in part that he might feel the same way. I think he did get that you were not completely open with him. It is hard for therapy to work when you hide things. Of course, you dont let it all out at once but I can see if I was attracted to man I could never let him be my therapist I don't think I could let all my junk out of my trunk it would interfere. Maybe in time I could overcomed but it would be tough.
Or two you could try to seek him out, apologize for not being open and tell him the termination was too soon and maybe could you extend things. Tell him honestly you will obsess about the whole thing if things end now. See what he says.
These are just what hit me upon reading your thread. I am truly sorry this is happening. Maybe when we go see threapists we should be blinded from any physical attractions until we reach a certain point so this doesn't happen but I believe that a certain amount will happen because I think when you seek a therapist you are in such a state and they seem so caring you can't help but fall a little for someone that answers the call of a heart that is hurting.
Good luck and let us know what you do....Take care of yourself and give yourself some love and patience..And don't apologize for asking for advice or help. That is what Babble is for....rk
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