Posted by rskontos on November 29, 2007, at 11:14:56
In reply to Therapy, posted by lovelorn on November 28, 2007, at 10:24:12
Welcome Lovelorn. I should have answered yesterday when I was having a great day. I would have probably answered differently.
Yes I think you will have highs and lows due to the sensitive nature of what you are opening up about. I guess to me you have to do this because the hurt is locked up inside and must be released and given a voice. When you think about it no one through time has liked being repressed. Our inner kids or the hurt we carry inside needs to escape. Whenever that hurt is held inside it will erupt. If you felt the need to go to a therapist then I think you have to continue to see where it leads you. I also now think that people who have the capacity for being healthy seeks therapy. HOw many of us on Babble know or have family member we think need to have therapy but never seek it.? You are opening up because you have a need. You are a strong person. I admire how you openly admitted your breakdown. That was a brave and powerful thing you did. You own it it doesn't own you. That is what I think we have to do with these hurts inside us that are driving us so much. Own them so they don't own us anymore. So that can take a year maybe longer.
I had a previous post written but close it before I sent it and it was lost. What is said was I have a friend a doctor that in my mind has her blank together. She has a thriving business and two good kids and a nice husband. She told me, I knew she went to therapy, that she has been in therapy for 17 years. She went in because in her words she lost it. It blew me away. I thought she went in for her controlling mother. She told me this because I am feeling pressure from my husband and neuro to make PROGRESS in therapy. I get the question all the "Are you feeling like you are making progress". So what do you then do, wonder am I? I told my husband no I wasn't I just wanted to spend his money frivoulously. (cant spell it). Then seriously I told him what my friend said who he thinks has it together and he hasn't asked me that since.
I guess my point in this long post, sorry is it will take as long as it does to clean out that hurt. After all how long did it take to get there. In my case since I was a baby dealing with a missintunement mentally ill mom who had lots of lovers but didn't love her babies. Lots of junk in my trunk too.
Take care lovelorn, we will all be strong and well one day.........I am certain....rk
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