Posted by JoniS on November 25, 2007, at 22:44:36
In reply to This is what I will send my T to discuss...., posted by Muffled on November 24, 2007, at 23:50:11
Hi Muff
You have lots to discuss don't you? Job security for your T. :-)
I'm sorry you're dealing with such negative thoughts about yourself, but I am so glad you & your T are working well together.
I know these discussion items are for your T,but here's my 2.5 cents. Sorry I don't know anything about ikids, but I do know the answer to your number:
3. YES. You got it Baby!
4. Yes, over time and work in t your self destruct will be overcome by your positive, strong sense of self thoughts.
5. ...Where is number 5?...
6. If you need to hear what you need to hear, don't worry. I have to be reassured still, after 4.5 years of working with T that he isn't going anywhere and I can see him as long as I need to. I guess this is a trust thing that takes how ever long it takes.
7. I strongly suspect that you are NOT "damn defective..." as you describe yourself. You just keep telling yourself these things cause you're holding on to old thought patterns. And why do they exist so strongly when you seem to have had a relatively good childhood? Aren't our minds about the most complicated thing you've ever come across? I think it's amazing what the Docs and Pdoc and Ts know. ...Back to negative thinking... in my case, I had a relatively good upbringing, but some serious disfunction in my parents and my family dynamics. Combine that with my tendency toward depression (seratonin shortage?) and my closest friend around age 14-16 constantly constantly put herself down. I learned well from her. I often tell myself why am I the way that I am? (such a low self-esteem) I have basically been telling myself "shut up and quit whining, so many people have it so much harder than you..." So, as usual, I compare myself to others and I don't measure up and it's all my fault and blah blah blah circular thinking. You said it's (negative self) all you've ever know and that you can't teach old horse new tricks. Well, let me just tell you that I am definitely years older than you and this "old horse" has learned and is continuing to learn new tricks! Yes, you can.
8. Give the God relationship thing time. Don't stress over it. I have been in a weird place myself for the last few years and I'm seeing that trying to push myself in a certain direction doesn't work. Go easy on yourselves :-)
9. You are NOT defective. You can work on this area and make both hubby & you much happier. You just need to be willing and have a gooood professional to help.
10. I get meds from GP - Internist too. No Pdoc but I like it this way. Works for me.This has been my 2.5 cents so you are welcome to throw it all away, it's muckity muck.
For me, Therapy doesn't suck, it's hard but it's one of the most important things to me in my life right now. I am so thankful for my T. I love him tooo much.
I love Babblers too. It's so good to have this place to come and talk.
Muff, I hope you're doing well. Keep up the good work.
((((((Muff))))))
Joni
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