Posted by rskontos on November 14, 2007, at 10:41:52
In reply to Re: Attachment and Missing my T, posted by Wittgenstein on November 14, 2007, at 4:52:21
Witt and Sunnydays, it is heartbreaking to me that there are so many of us out here whose parents were the way they were :(. But we are trying to deal with it. You Witti, I dont think of myself as brave just trying to get by really. I too like you and Sunny, didn't think of any of my parents behavior as anything as normal because that is all I knew. As I keep telling my T stuff she tells me no that isn't good parenting.
Sunny, I know you are not ready for no more T, that is ok. It is great that your T is prepared for a long term committment. That alone tells you he won't leave you. I am more like Witt I never really thought about whether my T likes me or not. I just wanted and needed help so badly I would take anything. Indifference is almost prefered because I don't have to worry about her too. You know what I mean. My mother is dead so she can't change. I though only now broke the hold she had over me even dead for 20 years. I don't really know how I feel about her now, or my father well actually I don't have much feeling for him and my T says that is ok because he did nothing to create a relationship. I too feel a emptiness to them both and my grand parents. They let us remain in this situation without trying to protect us from my parents. I am sad for the small children we were, mad at the adults that should have protected us, and the adult in me is empty of feelings for them. So no I am forgiving them yet. I think we have a good progress to date and only hope we reach a place where achieve peace. But I am glad to know there are others that I can relate to I am only sad to know that you went through the same h*ll to get there and that s*ucks for us all :( But we did survive and we are stronger!~
rk
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