Posted by sunnydays on November 12, 2007, at 14:19:33
In reply to Re: The Phases of Therapy » twinleaf, posted by Wittgenstein on November 12, 2007, at 10:06:16
I don't know about phases. I can't think clearly enough about where I was at the beginning. But I definitely know I have improved a whole lot. I feel like I can talk about myself so much more deeply and insightfully and confidently now, whereas before I could barely talk at all. I also am grateful that even though I am graduating this year, if I don't stay in the area I can talk to my T on the phone as long as I want. He said I could get married and have five kids and be ecstatic all the time and still come and see him. It was totally my choice how long our therapy lasted. That even after he retired I could talk to him if I wanted to. He said it was a lifelong commitment, which was just really nice, and so important for me to hear when he said it a couple weeks ago.
But phases... well that would require remembering the painful parts and since I'm in a painful part right now I'd rather just remember the pleasant parts in the past. Right now we are dealing intensively with how much I get scared he's going to leave me and abandon me and really working with connecting those feelings back to what they are really about - my parents, who were verbally abusive, and my mother was physically abusive.
I think you're doing good work Daisy. And I think your T would make a lifelong commitment to you too. I'm glad you feel your trust is growing some.
sunnydays
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