Posted by rskontos on November 7, 2007, at 10:31:30
In reply to Re: Pragmatism » Dinah, posted by antigua3 on November 7, 2007, at 7:14:50
Well then I would venture to say that for us as survivor of trauma either in childhood or adulthood that we have learned this as a means too to keep us safe in a world that we have never really felt safe in. I know that I manipulate my world and the people in it to the extent i can to keep me as safe as possible so my inner demons don't surface as I can't control them. I still feel like I am surviving on the basic level so I try to accept (like a pragmatist) what is being given to me unless I feel threatened, and then if threaten I manipulate the situation. If all else fails, I run. That always has been the way I work. If therapy becomes to much I might run. I am trying not to be pragmatist or manipulative in this setting as I see that for me it isn't the best course of action to get well if I can. I am trying to see the therapist as a means to an end because I don't want to get too close to her either. I want to do this on my own. I want the accomplishment to come about from a new me. The one that has always been hidden. I don't know if I can do this but this is my current approach. I don't know what that makes me but I know that my approach to life for the past 48 years isn't working anymore so I must try something new or there might not be much more in store for me. Sorry to hijack the thread, Dinah
In the end I think Dinah I think that whoever you are, the very reason you are digging so deep to think about who and why you do what you do shows a really deep desire to be a better person in therapy and life and I think you will reach it. You are a smart person and whether or not you pragmatist or not, I think you are very intelligent articulate and have given me loads of great advice! So thanks for that and all you are! rk
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